Why do some trouble married couples, absolutely refuse to go to marriage counseling, even when its free to go?

while my husband and i aren't physical with our arguments - we could use some counseling. you want the truth? i don't want to go to counseling because i am afraid of who i am. i'm afraid that i'll find out that i won't like me, and be stuck with those thoughts of me forever. while that really does sound crazy, it's the truth. i don't wanna see me. i know that it would be helpful to me if i did go - and that i can be strong enough to do it, but it take balls...and mine are still growing.





i'll get there, just hopefully before it's too late.Why do some trouble married couples, absolutely refuse to go to marriage counseling, even when its free to go?
Sounds like they grew up with a lot of drama, and they are must mapping the past forward. They don't go because on some level they need that drama to feel normal.





A good friend of mine finally went to marriage counseling with his wife after 7 years of marriage. He resisted for a while, and tends to not believe stuff like that, but he said it was the best thing they ever did. He said that the root cause of much of the stress in their relationship boiled down to a messy house. They got to a point to just hire a house keeper to come if a few times a week and 90% of the stress went away almost over night. For some reason, they just couldn't come to that point by themselves. He said it was the best few hundred dollars they ever spent.Why do some trouble married couples, absolutely refuse to go to marriage counseling, even when its free to go?
They are probably afraid to find out the truth. My brother is a marriage counselor and he says some couples who come blame their partner 100% for every bad thing. He tells them to leave and see a divorce attorney. Some couples are not willing to sit down because they don't care whether it works or not. A few actually enjoy the constant bickering. For marriage counseling to work both husband and wife must be truthful and do what the counselor advises them to do, and they both must desire for their marriage to work.
I refused Marriage counseling because i felt like we could handle our problems ourselves all we had to do was sit down and talk to each other without getting upset which was hard to do. but in the end we worked everything out and we aren't having big problems. we just argue about little stuff just like normal couples.
You really shouldn't be giving married people advice about their marriage unless they ask for it.........especially a 'million' times.Some people actually enjoy this kind of relationship. Obviously they are both getting something out of it or one or both or them would have left. I would suggest if their behavior distresses and frustrates you so, that you just stay away from the. If they ask tell them all the fighting makes you extremely uncomfortable. Does it remind you or your parents?
Have you thought of the possibility that this couple has become addicted that that type of behavior between them? Seems they have accepted it as a normal way of life. Please do not interfer, this is some thing they need to work between them. I know you mean well but one rule of thumb is to stay out of other people's relationship issues.
Well with my experience, they don't want to go because then they will have to take responsibility on who's fault is who. Have to open up to there feelings, and have to get advice from someone that has no Idea about anything to do with them and they might fill that the counsler is taking sides.
Where do you live that counseling is free? Not the US. WHile it is possible to find counseling that charges according to income, I don't know of any where that it is free. Besides which, these couples might be perfectly happy with their contentious relationships, you shouldn't judge.
They feel they do not need it


They feel they can work it out themselves


They dont want other folk in their business


Peference
Misery loves company and those 2 make perfect companions for one another.
Because they are morons. They want to keep up the false everything is ok stay out of our business.
They are ignorant.
They just give up plain and simple.
cuz they don't want to admit they are wrong and don't want to see their own faults..
Maybe they thrive on the abuse, or they don't want anyone to know they problems...it's probably the first one.
PRIDE
They don't believe is going to change anything. which is sad!