A major concern about becoming a parent at this age is the high risk of having a down-syndrome child. Can your financially, emotionally, and psysically handle having a high-needs child? That child would require care for life. By the time they were age 20, you would probably not be able to care for them much longer.
One must also consider that your child will not have their parents around as long as their peers. They could likely suffer the loss of a parent in their 20's rather than their 40's, 50's or 60's. One has to consider if this is really fair to the child and potential grandchildren. Also, health problems can start to really set in. Can you handle caring for a 10 year old if you have arthritis, heart problems, whatever?
There is also the fact that there will be a huge age gap between parent and child. It will make it even more difficult for parent and child to relate because it has been so long since the parent has ';been there';. You also would likely have to deal with people asking ';Is this your grandchild?';
If you are willing to face these possibilities, and also impose these difficulties on your child and hope they cope, then go for it. Conceiving may be difficult though. You must also consider that a woman's body will not handle the difficulties of pregnancy as well, and will not bounce back as well. It is more dangerous for a woman to become pregnant at this age.
Also, when will you be retiring? Can you support a child if you are living on social security? I know my grandparents can barely support themselves on $900/month let alone a child.I'm looking for problems couples have encountered when having children after 50 - what are they?
Having children after FIFTY? Did I read that right? You can't be serious!
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